There is no healthy man on earth can
talk and communicate without moving, waving or using his hands, legs or face
gestures, if you don’t believe me just try to talk to someone by using your
lips only; don’t move your eyes don’t wave your hands and don’t point with your
finger, try it, and it will be just like hell because you will talk more to
explain, while he or she will feel that he/she does not understand you. Why? Because
people are used to explain everything they can express by words with their
moves and gestures. They are used to it because they have been raised depending
on such moves and gestures; as for example when the mother wants to feed her 8
months old baby she can’t ask him / her to open the mouth so she (the mother)
opens her mouth and the baby will mimic the act, and will open the mouth.
This week you will have the chance
to learn the most magnificent science, you will learn the vocabularies of
reading people’s real thoughts and knowing if they are lying or not, if they
like or hate us, or if they are pretending that they do. Such a science is so
helpful because it helps us to manage our negotiations, make successful deals
in a very short time, and read others’ minds to know wither they are cheating
courtship, dating and mating –
sexual body language
Many signals in flirting, dating and
mating body language are covered in the general translation signals, and the
fundamental principles of social/work body language also apply to the
development or blocking of sexual relationships.
There are some differences which can
completely change the nature of a signal given in a sexual context. Sitting
opposite someone is an example, which is confrontational at work, but is often
intimate and enabling for sexual and romantic relationships: full constant
eye-to-eye contact is helpful for intimacy, as is full frontal facing between
male and female for obvious reasons.
Personal space must also be
considered in a different way in social-sexual situations compared to work and
non-sexual situations: At work, the primary consideration is given to
respecting the personal zones and not invading closer than the situation
warrants. In a sexual flirting context however, personal space becomes the
arena for ritual and play, and within reason is more of a game than a set of
Dancing is further example of how
body language operates at a different level in sexual-social situations.
Different tolerances and tacit (implied) permissions apply. It’s a ritual and a
game which humans have played for thousands of years.
Dancing relates strongly to the
attention stage of the dating/mating/courtship process. In many ways courtship
echoes the selling and advertising model AIDA (Attention, Interest, Desire, and
Knowing about flirting body language
is useful in a favorable environment.
Female indications of interest in a
Females have very many ways of
attracting attention to themselves than males, and so are able to express
interest and availability in far more ways than males tend to do.
Female interest in males is
relatively selective. Male interest in females is by comparison constant and
Here are the most common female
flirting body language signals and meanings, according to experts on the
Eye contact – anything more than a
glance indicates initial interest.
Eye catch and look away –
establishing eye contact then looking away or down is said by many experts to
be the standard initial signal of interest designed to hook male reaction. The
reliability of the signal meaning is strengthened when repeated and/or
reinforced with longer eye-contact.
Eye-widening – interest,
simultaneously increasing attractiveness/appeal.
Eyelash flicker – subtle movement of
eyelashes to widen eyes briefly.
Pupil dilating – interest, liking
what is seen, arousal.
Looking sideways up – lowering head,
slightly sideways, and looking up – also known as doe-eyes, with eyelashes
normally slightly lowered – displays interest and vulnerability/coyness, most
famously employed by Diana Princess of Wales, notably in her interview with
Martin Bashir in battle for public sympathy following her split with Prince
Shoulder glance – looking sideways
towards the target over the shoulder signals availability, and hence interest.
Moistening lips – lips are
significant in signaling because (psychologists say) they mimic the female
labia, hence the potency of red lipstick (suggesting increased blood flow) and
moistening/licking the lips.
Parted lips – significant and potent
Flicking hair – often combined with
a slight tossing movement of the head.
Showing inner wrist or forearm – a
soft vulnerable area and erogenous zone.
Straightening posture – standing
taller, chest out, stomach in – a natural response to feeling the urge to
appear more appealing.
Self-touching – drawing attention to
sexually appealing parts of the body; neck, hair, cleavage, thigh, etc. –
additionally self-touching is said to represent transference/imagining of being
touched – and of course demonstration of what it would be like for the target
to do the touching; teasing in other words.
Standing opposite – normally a
confrontational positioning, but in flirting allows direct eye contact and
optimizes engagement. Refer also to personal space rules: less than 4ft between
people is personal; less than 18 inches is intimate and only sustainable when
there is some mutual interest and attraction, especially when direct facing and
not in a crowded environment. N.B. Crowded environments distort the personal
space rules, where implied permissions (e.g., for public transport and dense
crowds or queues) override normal interpretations.
Leg twine – a tight-leg cross
‘aimed’ (combined with eye contact) at a target, or when sitting one-to-one,
increases sexual allure since it emphasises leg shape and tone. When employed
flirtatiously, female leg crossing and uncrossing also has obvious sexual
connotations and stimulates basic urges in males.
Shoe-dangling – positive signal of
relaxation or of greater promise, especially if the foot thrusts in and out of
Pouting – pouting involves
tightening the lips together; the tongue rises to the roof of the mouth as if
ready to swallow. Pouting displays various emotions, not always a sexual one,
for example projection of the lower lip indicates upset. An attraction pout
looks more like the initial forming of a kiss.
Picking fluff – removing fluff,
hair, etc., from the target’s clothes is playing in the intimate personal space
zone, in which the fluff picking is merely a pretext or an excuse.
Fondling cylindrical objects –
phallic transference, for instance using pens, a dangling earring, a wine glass
The above are the most common
gestures and signals that you may face and see while talking to a new or old
girl or man. Memorize them study them
more than one time , keep them in mind , and you will swim in the sea of the
lovers and the people who believe that you are the best mind reader all over the world.