Falling in love or just feeling in love?

The eternal question
‘Am I in love?’ is overwhelming. Actually it is the question that everyone
should ask him/herself: Am I in love? because many people who love to feel love
pretend to be in love, they mimic what they see on TV or what they read in love
stories or even hear in romantic songs, they try to create the atmosphere that
could make them feel relaxed, sexy and stable. But when it comes to real life
they decide that they are not ready to dive in such a relation, when it comes
to real matters and real affaires most of us will retreat and reconsider his/her
love or his/her relation with this supposed lover.

According to
a professional: “Falling in love has its unique signs that could help us
distinguish it from the feeling in love”

First let us
define the ‘feeling in love expression’: it is when you think that you are in
love, because you are spending the time with the one who you think matches the
specifications that stick into your mind about the one who should be your
beloved one.

‘Falling in
love’ is the feeling that collects many feelings together and puts you in the
center of nowhere looking for nothing waiting the peacefulness of the dawn or
the darkness of the night to resort to daydreaming.

Psychologists
say that when you fall in love you will experience many real things which can be
considered as signs of love, if you don’t have them reconsider your relation.
these ‘love signs’ have been divided into:

 

Physical:

One of the
ways to know its love is through the physical responses you have to your
partner when in their presence or thinking about them. Do you shiver? Get
Goosebumps? Blush? Sweat? Feel tingly all over? Cry when saying goodbye? Get
stomach flip flops or butterflies? Feel like there is a lump in your throat?
Can’t stop smiling? Feel warm and fuzzy? All of these physical responses are
indicators that you may have found true love, but only when paired up with the
other clues in this list.

People who
say they are in love report getting “Goosebumps,” “a palpating heart,” “sweaty
palms,” “a tingling sensation all over my body.”  People in love have a
positive physical reaction when they think about or see the one they love.

 

Emotional:

When they
think about or see the person they love most lovers report “an uncontrollable
smile comes over my face whenever I see her,” and “I miss him when he leaves
the room.”  People in love feel emotions for the person they love that
they do not routinely feel for others.

Positive
worry:  Over the years, we continue to be amazed about the consistency
with which people in love report to us that they “worry about their lover” when
they are not around.  Thoughts about what we have come to call “positive
worry” about the one they love begin to creep into their mind.

I-cannot imagine
life without him:  This is the point in love when you begin to think about
the future, your future with the one you love.  When you cannot imagine
your life without her, you are in love!

Oneness of
your relationship:  You begin to realize that you truly want this other
person in your life. In our book, we refer to the notion of “turning two into
one.”  Everything changes from you and me to we!

Pre-occupied
love:  Simply stated, you think about the one you love most of the
time.  You can’t get them out of your mind.  You are in love with
them!

Love itself
and your ability to express that love:  You finally have the courage to
tell them you love them! You suddenly and out of nowhere are inspired to say I
LOVE YOU!  I LOVE YOU!  I LOVE YOU!  You shout it to the
stars. You are in love!

Non-Obsessive
Worry You’ll know when it’s love by the way you worry about your partner. Did
they make it to work okay? Are they late because they were in an accident? Will
they enjoy the dinner you painstakingly made for them? Of course, we all worry
about our loved ones, but when you’re in love with someone the worry takes on a
different quality. At no point is it obsessive or negative however; rather, you
are truly concerned for their well-being when in love.

Wanting the
World to Know a common trait amongst couples who are in love is that they feel
compelled to tell the world that they love one another. Whether it is wanting
to yell at the top of your lungs from the rooftops, “I love you,” or
taking the celebratory nature of love towards a more traditional route
(marriage), true love is characterized by wanting everyone to know just how
happy you are together.

 

Constant
Reminders

You know
you’re in love when almost everything you experience reminds you of your
partner. From the kind of coffee they drink to the smell of their
cologne/perfume, from the way they say, “Hi!” to the silly way they
tie their shoelaces, wherever you are and whatever you’re doing, it all comes
back to your partner.

 

Positive
Thoughts

Being in
love with someone means that you (mostly) see them through rose-colored
glasses. In what is True Love, positive thoughts about your partner are a
crucial element to continued love for your partner? In some circles this
phenomena might be called “doing no wrong”, but with healthy optimism
and realism.

Reciprocated
Feelings: If your partner tells you that their feelings mirror yours in a
romantic, deep, loving fashion, then your love is likely blooming, or ready to
move to the next level.

Feeling Good:
There’s flying high on a cloud with loving feelings, and then there’s feeling
good about yourself. If your partner makes you feel like you’ve won a million
dollars when you’re together, or that you can conquer anything because he/she
has unswerving faith in you, then there’s a good chance you’re in love.

No pressure:
In many a romantic relationship, there is some pressure to move things to the
next level. In this case however we’re talking about feeling pressured by your
partner to do something you’re not willing or ready to do – such as
prioritizing them before work or having sex. You may want to do these things,
but when you’re truly in love they are your choice alone and do not occur
because of being pressured by your partner.

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